TAS 781 How To Increase Self Belief and CONFIDENCE? Ask Scott #243

How do you feel as a leader of your business? Do you feel confident, bold, and sure of your direction or could you use a little help? Don’t worry, you’ve come to the right place! It’s time for another session of Ask Scott here on The Amazing Seller. On this episode, you’ll hear from Scott as he gives an update on his audiobook version of “The Take Action Effect,” answers a question from a TAS follower like you, and so much more. Scott shares some really helpful insights on this episode, don’t miss it! 

Identifying “Take action” moments

If you’ve been around the TAS community for very long, you know that Scott is passionate about helping sellers like you “Take Action!” While it might just sound like a cool phrase that Scott uses to rally the troops, the truth is – it’s really a call to put your ideas into action. Look back at your journey so far – there have been moments where you decided that the status quo would no longer do – that’s a “Take Action” moment. Learn more about identifying “Take Action” moments by listening to this inspiring episode of The Amazing Seller! 

Overcoming failure

When was the last time you utterly failed at something? The saying “Nothing ventured, nothing gained” has a lot of truth to it – you won’t see movement if you don’t put in the work. Failure is nothing to be worried about – successful leaders fail all the time! What sets successful leaders apart from the “Failures” is the ability to learn from the failures and adapt. One of the best things you can do as a leader is to study the stories of other leaders who endured failure and found success. Tune into this episode of The Amazing Seller to hear even more from Scott!

Scott’s challenge

Let’s face it, most people won’t make any changes in their lives unless they have someone hold them accountable. Are you ready to make a change in your business? Good – take Scott’s challenge! Scott challenges sellers like you to take time and look back at your story and identify the Take Action moments that have brought you this far. This challenge will help you get into the right mindset as you plan your next step. Why not do everything you can to put yourself in a position to succeed? Make sure to listen to this episode of The Amazing Seller as Scott expands on this challenge and a lot more! 

OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE OF THE AMAZING SELLER

  • [0:03] Scott’s introduction to this episode of the podcast!
  • [4:30] Question: How do I increase my self-confidence? 
  • [7:00] Identifying “Take action” moments. 
  • [13:00] Overcoming failures. 
  • [15:00] Scott’s challenge. 
  • [19:00] Closing thoughts. 
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TRANSCRIPT TAS 781

TAS 781: How To Increase Self Belief and CONFIDENCE? Ask Scott #243

Speaker 1: 00:02 Hey, what's up everyone? Welcome back to another episode of the amazing sellers podcast. This is episode number seven 81 and session number two 43 of Scott. This is where I answer your questions here on the podcast. I can't wait to food again here today and today I am excited because, wow, this, this

Speaker 2: 00:23 is a question. This is something that I have dealt with that I know a lot of people deal with. Even really, really, really one more really, really successful people battle with and it doesn't really matter what level you're at. And that is how to increase my confidence and remove self doubt. That's a big one. And we're going to talk about that. I've got some thoughts. I've also got some action steps for you that if you are feeling this way, totally normal by the way. And, uh, you know, it doesn't really ever go away, at least from my experience, but it does get easier. And if you have things to kind of plug in that will help you through that, uh, it can really take you from feeling like, Oh, I can't do that because I mean, look at them, you know, they can do it, but I can't, I'm not as smart.

Speaker 2: 01:14 I'm not this, I'm not that. Uh, it, it kind of removes that and um, it, it just makes you feel as though you will have that confidence. And I'm going to give you something today that will help you with that. So that also lends itself to a special announcement that I have today, which has a, well, I kind of mentioned it on another episode, but kind of very, very nonchalant. Uh, but, uh, today I am going to make an effort here to let you guys know that it is official now, currently right now, today, um, that the audio book is available for the take action effect. If you guys are brand new to the podcast, uh, recently, actually I announced it at brand accelerator live last year in September. It was a secret project I was working on over 12 months long and it finally was done and ready for the reveal there.

Speaker 2: 02:10 And I've gotten so many people already that have said this has really just changed their life and really it just changed their perspective. And I'm part of what I'm going to talk about today comes from a lot of the stuff I teach and I talk about in the first half of the take action effect. And uh, just want to let you guys know though that the audio book is now available. Yes, it is now available and you can grab a copy and I'm actually going to give you an opportunity to get it for free. And let me talk about this now. Number one, if you just want to grab the book and uh, and support the book and get it on audio. And just to let you know if you already have a hard copy of the book. Um, the audio book is me reading it.

Speaker 2: 02:55 Personally, I didn't want to hire anyone for that. And there's also like I like is uh, there's some little love little spins in there that I take you on and there's little, there's little spots that I kind of go off and give some additional thoughts that a well that I didn't include in the book because as I was in the moment things just kind of came back to me as I was going through and reading the book. So those are there for you as well. So if you did already purchase the book, if you grabbed the audio book, you'll get that as well. I know myself personally, I get both. I generally get the physical copy and the audio book and the only way I won't get the audio book a lot of times is if the author is not reading it. I like the author reading their own book.

Speaker 2: 03:36 All right. But if you want to grab a copy, take action effect.com will take you there and then you can go over to Amazon and you can buy the book if you want to on audible. But if you want to get a free copy, all you need to do is sign up for a free 14 day trial of audible using my affiliate link. Yes, you will buy me a cup of coffee. So regardless, yes you will. You will buy me a cup of coffee as if you were to, same thing, just go by the book. It's not a lot of money, but uh, it's a cup of coffee and you can go to audible and sign up for a 14 free trial and they will let you get one free book. So you can pick my book and get it for free. See, that's how you would do it.

Speaker 2: 04:19 So go to the amazing seller.com forward slash audible. If you go to the amazing seller.com forward slash audible, uh, you'll get that book. All right, so let's just dig in. All right, cause I mean really, I generally start with like, like a thought of the week and all of that stuff. This really is the thought right now because it's kind of front of mind. And this actually came, this question came not from a voicemail. It came from someone that's inside of brand creators Academy. And once she spoke up, a lot of people chimed in and said, Hey, I get it right like me too, or me. I came in, I'm like, yeah, I get it. And it was, you know, she said it's really hard for me to step out of my comfort zone because I don't feel I have the confidence and I have a lot of self doubt and I want to get over that.

Speaker 2: 05:09 I know I gotta get over that, but I just, I get stuck and I make excuses because well, if you make excuses, you can't actually do it. And if you can't do it, then you can't fail. That's really what it's all about. I mean, think about it. There's a reason why you haven't done what you want to do. It's not because necessarily even the work, it could be because you've done something in the past and it didn't work and you either looked foolish or well, at least you thought you did, or you just felt like, Oh, see it doesn't work for me. I'm not as good as them. Right? So there's things that might've happened in the course of your life that is giving you that limiting belief in that self doubt. It could be having someone in your life that was negative towards you.

Speaker 2: 05:53 You know, maybe they didn't build up your confidence. Maybe they felt, made you feel like you do something. Um, and I know that's common in a lot of people's childhood, uh, as they're growing up, is just like, yeah, you know, you can't do that. You're not fast enough to do that. Come on, you're, you know, you're slow, right? Like not building them up. All right? So that could be it. You might want to identify that. And again, I don't want this to be a therapy session, although it could be, uh, you gotta dig deep. You gotta dig deep and figure out what is it that's blocking you. All right? Now I'm going to give you an exercise. I actually give this inside the book as well, okay? Because like I said, the first part of the take action effect is really getting the mindset right.

Speaker 2: 06:36 We got to get that right. If you don't get that right, you're probably not going to achieve the things that you really, truly want to achieve. Because in the book and just in general, I believe in movement creates results, right? Like doing something creates a result. So the effect of taking action is the result, right? Like you're going to get that effect. And a lot of times that effect is rippled because one thing leads to the next, to the next, to the next, it just opens up opportunities. Okay? So I talk a lot about in the book about take action moments and these moments that you've probably already done in your life that have led you to where you are right now. All right? And this will help you get over these limiting beliefs. It will build up your confidence. All right? And I'm going to share an Amway story with you.

Speaker 2: 07:26 It's a, it was a humiliating story. It was something that totally I could have. I could have been defeated for the rest of my life. I was young, I was naive and I could have felt like a huge failure. Um, I was embarrassed. Um, and I actually tell a detailed story in, uh, in the book, but I'll give you the summarized version. But basically when I was, I believe I was around 22, 22 years old, newly married, um, just had our first child who's now is 24, by the way, which is crazy. Uh, and uh, you know, and I was working for my father. I was working for him for maybe a couple of years at this point in construction, but, you know, I wanted some extra money. I wanted to make some extra side money. So someone had approached me and said, Hey, you know, uh, have you ever heard of Amway?

Speaker 2: 08:18 And I'm like, no. And they're like, well, you know, it's really cool because if you get people to sign up underneath you that you can make money. And I'm like, well how does that work? And then they laid out this whole, they call it the plan, right? And then they teach you how to, how to promote the plan and how to contact all your friends. And this is way before Facebook too, by the way, right? If you had some people on an email list, that was even great, but a lot of times you didn't have that. And I'm young, I didn't even have a computer at that point. Literally, I'm thinking back, I didn't even have a computer at that age. I was against computers at that age, which is kinda funny. So anyway, so I, I listened to the, and I'm like, this sounds amazing.

Speaker 2: 08:56 Like all I need to do is byproducts through Amway myself, under myself. And then from there I got to tell other people about the plan on how they can buy products through themselves and then share the plan with other people, get them underneath them. Kind of sounds like a pyramid scheme. Right? But technically it's multilevel marketing, right? So, I don't know how they get away from that, but regardless, I was like, yeah, this is going to be great. I'm going to be a millionaire. And you know, and all of this, right. So they have these, um, these meetings, you go to there and they, they kind of like highlight all of the, all of the people that are somewhat successful or that you think they are. And it gets you to really aspire to be that. Um, and then y'all had a dress a certain way, suit and tie.

Speaker 2: 09:39 And by the way, I'm not a suit and tie guy never was and never want to be. And so I, you know, I followed everything to a tee. I contacted all my friends and family and one incident stands out to me and this story that really made me say, okay, this is not for me and made me feel like a failure. So I, uh, I, I called up my cousin who's older than me and I mentioned to her, you know, I mean made small talk and stuff, and I was like, you know, I got something really cool, I want to share with you. I'm not sure if you and your husband are going to be around, his name is Tim. I'm like, I'm not sure if you're going to be around, but I'd really love to sit down with you and you know, visit. But I'd like to show you something that you might be interested in and it's a great opportunity.

Speaker 2: 10:17 And she was, you know, polite and everything's like, okay, cool. I'll tell you what, I'll make dinner. And she's a great cook. Um, so she was gonna make an Italian dinner and I'm like, okay. So we set the date and then I go ahead and I put my suit on and the suit was purchased for either a wedding or a funeral, one or the other. And so I got the suit, I got the tie, I got everything. My, my wife at the, you know, at the time, my wife still, but my wife, it was kinda kind of weird that I even had a wife at 22, but I did. And, um, and Lisa and she, she, uh, you know, got herself all, you know, done up and she's in a dress and, uh, and so we show up and my cousin, Cindy's like, um, Hey, you know, like you could tell she was a little, and I'm like, Hey, how you doing?

Speaker 2: 10:59 And, you know, uh, you know, whatever. And I didn't say anything about the way I was dressed or anything like that. I just figured, you know what, I'm going to, I'm going to go in there and just maybe she thinks that I'm successful now because I'm all dressed up. And so anyway, I, uh, we sit down, we have dinner, um, her and her husband, they're polite, you know, they're, they're not asking me any questions yet. And then we got all done with dinner and get cleaned up. And I said, now can I show you something I'm really excited about? And she's like, okay. And then I started, I opened up the book that they give you and I started detailing the, uh, you know, the outline in the plan as they call it. And, and they were polite. They didn't ever say, Nope, we're not interested.

Speaker 2: 11:35 They weren't like the, you know, the Kirby a salesman that we use, the, excuse me that we used to, that we used to, um, you know, have come to our house and we would be like, no, we're not interested, you know. But they were very polite and, um, then we got all done and they're like, you know, you know, Scott, we're not interested in, you know, we're, we're good. You, we're happy with our jobs right now and stuff. I'm like, really? Like, you don't want to make an extra $5,000 a month or $10,000 a month, are you crazy? You know, like, I got a little, like, I don't want to say upset with them, but I was kinda like, just questioning them. And, um, so I accepted it and um, and walked away with my tail between my legs and I was like, wow, okay.

Speaker 2: 12:14 That was not fun. And that there, I was embarrassed and I showed up in a suit and then after about a month, I felt even more embarrassed. I'm like, Holy crap, I can't believe I did that. That's so embarrassing. And, uh, and even to this day, it's kind of embarrassing to be honest with you, but I did it. And the way that I really got over that, to be honest with you was my mother-in-law at the time was throwing away, um, or not throwing away. She wanted me to get rid of these Tony Robbins CDs or deep, no, not even cassettes. And, uh, it was a little book or is actually, uh, a book that you would open up and you'd see all the cassettes in it. And she was giving me some stuff to bring salvation army. And I seen that and I go, Oh, wow, it's Tony Robbins.

Speaker 2: 12:58 I've heard about him, but, uh, maybe I'll put one of them in. And, um, I put one of them in. I think it was, um, uh, unleash the power within, I think was the program. And I went through and I listened and it really resonated with me. And he talked about failures. He talked about, uh, you know, not just, uh, you know, thinking you did something and it didn't work and feeling like a failure. So that really got me out of the funk. Now. I didn't do anything after that for a while. I was still a little nervous, a little hesitant. But then when I got my courage up again, I decided to try something else. And that something else was, and I talk about that in the book was I was going to create a, a, you know, a, a marketing, a booklet that we use to advertise.

Speaker 2: 13:46 And we used to advertise our, a company in there. We used to spend 1000 bucks a month. And I'm like, this is a, this is a, uh, you know, a gold mind. All this guy's doing is printing these little coupons and mailing them out the addresses and getting paid 1000 bucks a month. I can do that. And again, that did not work. Uh, but I took those lessons that I learned from the Amway thing and tried to use those there. And then that thing, I tried to take those lessons to the next thing. And then from there, my wife and I decided to start a photography business. And well you, if you've read the book or if you heard the book or if you've been on this podcast for any period of time, you know that that ended up working out. But if I didn't trust in that process and understand that these failures are part of it and they're not really failures, they're learning experiences.

Speaker 2: 14:29 So what I want you to do, okay, is I want you to identify is there something there, why you are limiting your potential or your you, your confidence is low or you have self doubt. Is there a reason that you know clearly that's why, cause if it is, it's easier to identify it, but then to, to fix it right now. One way that you can fix this, okay, I'm going to give you something to do and I want you to do this. I actually shared this at brand accelerator live and I had so many people come up to me and they go, I did it. And I'll tell you what, you're right. I feel so much better now and I'm ready to go out there and conquer the world. Okay. And it's very simple. Okay, here's what I want you to do. You're going to identify some take action moments in your life right now that you've already done that turned into success.

Speaker 2: 15:15 And I don't care if that success was you applied for a job and got the job, but you were nervous because you didn't know you were qualified and then you got the job and then you still didn't think you were qualified and you thought you were going to, you know, basically get made fun of because you didn't really, whatever, you're not right. All of these things go through your head when you're trying something, but you did it and it ended up, it moved you in the direction that you are. Maybe now that you got to a certain level in your company or you got to a certain level, um, you know, in that thing, or maybe it was, you know, uh, and I always use the example about sports and stuff, but maybe you, you were going to try out for a travel team. My daughter who's 12, tried out for some travel teams and I'm in one team last year, she didn't make the national team, but she made the team below that, which is the regional team.

Speaker 2: 16:02 And she felt a little defeated, but it's okay because guess what, this year, this year she tried out and she made it. But she wouldn't have if she just would've just said, you know what, I'm no good. She just got better and she believed in herself and she keeps, you know, trying to get better. And that's what we need to do. So I want you to do this, create your timeline. I want you to take a piece of paper, okay? I want you to turn it horizontally and I want you to put on the left hand side of the paper. I want you to put a little stick figure face. Uh, you know, you can even put a smiley face if you want. And uh, and then from there, just make a stick figure and then draw a line all the way to the other side before it goes off the page and then draw another stick figure with another smiley face.

Speaker 2: 16:44 Cause why not smile, right? And then when I want you to do is draw some vertical lines on there. Okay? And then I want you to go all the way back to when you were maybe in high school and I want you to start kind of highlighting and thinking about what are some things that you've accomplished that you either forgot about or you're not giving yourself credit for because you're like, eh, everyone does that. No, there's things that you did because you took action and those actions gave you a result and it probably created the effect of bringing you to where you are right now. So I want you to trace back those steps, you know, really map out your story, map out your timeline. Now in that timeline, you might want to also grab some lines and drop them below the line. Those are moments that didn't work, right?

Speaker 2: 17:39 I talk about one, I actually did this timeline exercise. I did it at brand accelerator live and there was one there that I had that, you know, everything was going great. I had, you know, we had our photography business, everything was going awesome. Then we left that and basically started going to the online space, did that for a year. Everything was going great. And then all of a sudden I got a, a trademark violation, uh, from a company saying that we have to basically remove our domain name, all of our branding, um, or we're going to be sued. And I was on the ultimate high guys. Like I had the, I had the best year ever and all of a sudden my legs were kicked out from under me and boom, I felt like a failure because how did I miss that? How did I miss that? So that's something to think about.

Speaker 2: 18:26 All right, so think about those things. It's okay because you overcame those, but what are those highlights too? So create that timeline, do that exercise. I'm telling you right now, it'll make a huge, huge difference. And make sure that you do that. Okay, so once again, here's what I want you to do. If you haven't done so already, grab my book, the take action effect, either a physical copy, a digital copy, or the audio book. You can find that by heading over to take action effect.com and you'll have a link there that you can click on. Take you over to Amazon, you can buy the audio book, you can do the physical paperback. Uh, you can do hardcover, you can do the Kindle, it's all there for you. Or if you want a free copy, you can go over to the amazing seller.com forward slash audible sign up for a free audible trial and you can get one book for free. And that could be my book. So make sure that you do that. All right guys, if you have a question you want me to answer on an upcoming Ascot session, please submit it over. At the amazing seller.com/ask

Speaker 1: 19:25 and I can go ahead and listen to your question and I can answer on an upcoming episode. All right guys, so that's it. That's gonna wrap it up. As always, remember I'm here for you. I believe in you and I am rooting for you, but you have to, you have to come up. Say it with me. Say it loud. Say it proud. Take action. I have an awesome, amazing day. I'll see you right back here on the next episode.

Speaker 2: 19:47 Hey, before you go, could you do me one quick favor? If you haven't done some already, can you head over to iTunes and could you leave me a review over there? I would really love to hear how this podcast has helped you in one way, shape, or form. And Oh, by the way, I read every single one of them, and actually I'm going to read one right now, and this one came in recently from Allen V and he said, this is the best podcast that delivers not only free but most important, very well organized content to help you understand and know what you have to do in your brand and Amazon business. Scott is very energetic now, really and smart about organizing lots of information into little baby steps to help me take action. Thank you very much, Scott, for being an inspiration and for delivering so, so much. There's a lot of OHS there, so again, I read every single one of them. I appreciate all of you and I would really appreciate it if you would leave me one of your own reviews there as, and if you haven't

Speaker 1: 20:48 also subscribed yet to the podcast, if you can do that, that would be amazing. Talk to you later. Bye.

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